If you don't deal with shameful experiences, it can start a vicious cycle – and prevent those affected from acting relaxed in social situations. In her compact book, psychotherapist, supervisor and coach Ilse Sand dedicates a special way to feel the urge to sink into the ground. She addresses her readers on a first-name basis, describing not only the source of chronic shame; How can she cope?
The nice thing is that she does not present her book as a cure for shyness. She often points out how important it is to share these negative feelings with others. In addition to psychotherapy, friendship can be a good way to receive positive feedback and realize that shameful experiences are not as devastating as they initially were. “What is broken in the relationship must also be repaired in the relationship,” Sand is convinced. However, it is also important to critically question some relationships – because unsuccessful dynamics in dealing with each other, which result from shame, are often present across generations.
The author keeps her book chapters very short and includes many quotes from her clients. A list of references can be found at the end of the book, but there are no references to relevant sources directly in the text. This makes the show feel a bit superficial at times, but it fits well into the chosen narrative form with a personal approach.
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