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During a recent LGBT Center event in Los Angeles where she was honored with a Vanguard Award (via diverse), Kiki got real about her own relationship to sex and sexuality, and how she resists easy categorization.
In her notes, she said, “I’ve always been my own person. Gender and identity have always been a bit of a confusion for me.”
You know, it’s, ‘I never felt straight enough. I never felt gay enough. And I never felt woman enough. I never felt man enough. You know, I always felt like I was a part of everything.”
Kiki went on to say that she is “often… led by masculinity” and that she has been “met with a lot of disdain” as a woman. “I think a lot of that came from who I thought I had to be to get respect, admiration and love,” she explained.
“I’ve always really wanted to be like my father…to want him to be taken seriously and not to diminish me because I was a woman. You know, that was always a source of — I think you would say — pain and resentment.”
“Why should my gender determine the power I have in the world? And why should my gender decide my sexual orientation?”
Kiki went on to say that she “questioned the boxes I was forced to be in” from a young age. “You’re supposed to be as a black person or whatever background you’re from…and then those walls just try to get you in from every angle, who you are as a creator, who you are as a friend.”
She said, “I am really so grateful to see you in this room, because I know I am surrounded by people who undoubtedly know what it is like to decide to be who you are in a world that tells you to be everything but yourself.
You can read Kiki’s full reviews here.
“Wannabe web expert. Twitter fanatic. Writer. Passionate coffee enthusiast. Freelance reader.”
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